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Pot Etiquette, From Emily Post's Great Grandaughter

By Sean McCaughan
Jul 09, 2018

Lizzie Post, great-granddaughter of that famous doyenne of good manners, Emily Post, and co-director of the Emily Post Institute, recently gave Leafly a few pointers on proper cannabis consumption etiquette in an interview. Here they are, condensed like a good concentrate or a copy of her family’s eponymous guidebook, ‘Emily Post’s Etiquette, for your easy reference.

Although joints are classic, the combustion aspect of them is less than polite. Be considerate wherever fire or secondhand smoke is a problem: “There’s something nice about the familiarity of it. Whereas not everybody is familiar with how to hit a bowl or do it well. Even though most of us grew up in a culture where smoking cigarettes are demonized, it’s still a familiar action. It’s easy for people to associate with and understand. I do get angry that it’s a combustion method. You’re not fooling yourself, Lizzie,” she says.

Always ask how to use another person’s vape pen, so you don’t burn half the concentrate: “Portable devices really do change the ‘take care of yourself’ aspect of cannabis.”

Always check with your host, even when vaping: “Even though vaping is more discreet and less smelly than combustion, Post recommends always checking with your host. She offers language like ‘is it alright to vape in here? Or, is it alright if I take it outside? As we’re getting used to cannabis being legalized, it’s a really nice consideration because we as a society are still not used to inhaling and exhaling things indoors and in front of people the way we were in the 40s,’ she says.”

If the joint has a filter, always hold the filter: “Any time someone holds a joint that has a crutch or filter, and they hold it above the crutch or filter, so they’re holding the actual weed. That drives me nuts. You’re pinching the joint and cannabis has resin in it, which builds up when you smoke it. So when you pinch the end of the joint nearest the filter, you’re gumming up and blocking the airflow. At the most crucial point of the joint.”

Don’t slobber: “If you have a fairly wet whistle, let’s say to be polite, you want to make sure you’re not getting it all over, especially a joint because that could impact its smoke-ability.”

Burn the end of a glass mouthpiece before passing it around to sterilize it. It’s “really thoughtful.”


Lizzie Post, Great-Grandaughter of Emily Post

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